Friday, October 28, 2016
Personal Hell (H3)
In response to William James’ quote from his Principles of Psychology. It’s interesting how little we realize we put ourselves through our own personal hell. For instance, one of my friends recently went through a struggle with “depression”. I couldn’t figure out why they would be sad and depressed, since that person’s life was going pretty well at the time. And so one day I sat down and talked with them. Through that talk I came to realize that in fact, nothing really was wrong, except that they kept thinking about and overanalyzing how others perceive them. For some, realizing how much you care about others opinions and desiring to change that about yourself is a pretty easy fix, but this friend has been doing that their whole life. They have formed these reactions and habits of caring too much about others’ opinions instead of what they actually want. With this specific friend, it also might stem from their deep personal connection to their family. And so, because family means so much to my friend and my friend cares very much about their family’s opinions and has their whole life, it has shaped their thoughts and made getting through life much harder than it has to be in some aspects. All that to say that I have seen how true and applicable this quote is to our modern society. It’s strange how difficult your habits can make your life and truly sad that we are told too late about the consequences of forming bad habits.