I briefly mentioned at the end of my last post that friends how friends help you determine your self worth. Which I whole heartedly believe to be true. A true friend will build up your self esteem when it needs to be built up, and tear that shit down when you get a big head.
I’ve talked about how friends will be the people there for you when you’re in need. Whatever event causes you to need people like this, they will rise to the occasion. Knowing this is almost an empowering feeling. I can think of multiple times that I knew I had the support of my friends and how it felt. The most memorable though, would most likely be my graduation night. I had moved to a knew school for my senior year and somehow ( don’t ask me because it confused me too) was one of the valedictorians. Even though I had only been there for one school year, most of the graduating class congratulated myself more the other speakers. The feeling that all these people that I had never seen in my life a year before hand were supporting and loving me was overwhelming. It was definitely a bigger highlight to me than anything else I had accomplished throughout my high school career.
Love and support are two terms that generally carry some sense of endearment, but they can have another side. Anyone have redneck relatives that preached “tough love” while making you do impossible tasks? It’s easy to love people in the positive way, they’r generally receptive to that. Telling people what they do not want to hear is tough. If a friend gets a big head, it’s not necessarily hard to tell them to quit being an asshole. When a friend has tough life decisions and you have to be the one to tell them what they should do, that’s hard. Telling someone to get over a boyfriend/ girlfriend of many years, that’s hard. It’s time like this that the harder form of love comes out. The friends that will tell you things you need to hear such as these are the ones worth having around.
If no one other than Dr. Oliver reads this I’m still happy that I chose this topic because of how it caused personal introspection. Many thoughts I can’t describe how I like to in a sober state of mind though. I whole-heartedly believe two things about friends: 1. without them a man is nothing and 2. mine are the best in the world.